Matrix of Our Social Tar-babies $1

 

 

We’re programmed, unwitting suckers by the well-intended, mostly, ‘Old School’ wisdoms passed on to us to avoid predicaments, but those wisdoms are themselves minefields, emotional boobie-traps for us in the empiric reality of life.

Our obliged trust for those we’ve bonded to in emotional dependence and
affection set us up to be acquiescently accepting of thoughts and behaviors that were the proverbial stones over which we stumbled in chagrined realization of our own misinformation.  

Yet, because we had the psychological escape from the disingenuous reliance on the assurance of past affirmations   of such thoughts and actions, we continued  to seek the versions ‘we know are out there’, getting  ourselves more entwined in the grasp of past fallacies. Those fallacies are   a default matrix, like the air that we breathe or the water  the fish swim in. It’s all we’ve learned how-to-get-by,       so it’s not given a second thought. It’s our version of entitlement that we do as a mindless prerogative.

The consequences of such, if not brought to our attention in intensely acute near-term circumstances, find their reckoning in our long-term, latter-day retrospective realizations and possible regrets.

Those tar-babies that were the touchstones for our identity fall away and leave us nakedly exposed in our terminal helplessness. And this is compounded exponentially with our contemporaries who’ve pursued after or are still clutching their comfort-tar babies in the no-other-option-fetish of rationalized, self-justification space that’s our marriage matrix til Death-does-us-apart.

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